Ch 10: Titan Mind
Ch 11: Titan Body
Ch 12: Titan Heart
Ch 13: Titan Skill
Ch 14: Titan Team
Ch 15: Titan Environment
Ch 16: Titan Finances
Ch 17: Titan Legacy
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“Nature yields her most profound secrets to those who are determined to uncover them.” – Napoleon Hill
I was living in my one-bedroom apartment in Los Angeles, California, when I received a phone call from my mother, informing me she had stage IV cancer. Shaken by the news, and being the only child in the family, I took the first plane back home.
It was during this time taking care of my mother that I, for the first time in my life, got in touch with my own mortality. I asked myself, “If I were in the last hour of my last day, what would be the things I would have liked to have achieved in my life for me to say, ‘I lived an extraordinary life?’” From that moment on, I redesigned my life accordingly.
Since I couldn’t afford any expensive mentorship programs on how to become successful, not only in business, but also in life, I went to the place where I could get access to all the best mentorship for free: the public library. After reading hundreds of biographies and books on mindset, mastery, business, science, health, fitness, spirituality, finances, personal relationships and happiness, and, by trial and error, I created a simple guide for me to live an extraordinary life according to my own value system.
Ever since, I’ve been able to turn my lifelong dreams into reality – still am: I went from renting a one-bedroom apartment in LA to owning different houses around the world. I married the love of my life. We have three beautiful sons. We get to travel all around the world, meet amazing people and live phenomenal
experiences, but most importantly, I get to live the kind of life that I’ve designed for myself: My Titan Life.
Living an extraordinary life is simple. It’s not easy, but it’s simple. Its secrets have been around for hundreds of years and have been applied by Titans throughout history: Confucius, Hippocrates, Alexander the Great, Leonardo Da Vinci, Miguel de Cervantes, William Shakespeare, Benjamin Franklin, Thomas Jefferson, Ludwig van Beethoven, Charles Darwin, Abraham Lincoln, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Mark Twain, John D. Rockefeller, Thomas Alva Edison, Nikola Tesla, George Bernard Shaw, Theodore Roosevelt, the Wright Brothers, Pablo Picasso, Mahatma Gandhi, Winston Churchill, Albert Einstein, Ernest Hemingway, Jorge Luis Borges, Walt Disney, Mother Teresa, Albert Camus, Nelson Mandela, Jose Saramago, Maya Angelou, Martin Luther King Jr., Warren Buffet, Dalai Lama, George Lucas, Larry Ellison, Steven Spielberg, Paulo Coelho, Bruce Springsteen, Richard Branson, Oprah Winfrey, Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Barack Obama, Jeff Bezos, JK Rowling, Elon Musk, the list goes on. This book curates said secrets for you.
Live a Titan Life!
“Life is like a play: it’s not the length, but the excellence of the acting that matters.” – Seneca
Are you living or merely existing? I would like you to think about this question as if your whole life depended on it. Because your life does depend on it.
If you are not sure whether you are living or merely existing, let me ask you a few additional questions to help you clarify your thoughts:
- Do you have a purpose in life, or are you just wandering aimlessly through life?
- If you have a purpose in life, are you living it out, or do you lack the discipline and willpower to get things done?
- Do you wake up inspired in the morning, or is it hard for you to wake up in the morning?
- Do you find joy in your life, or do you feel discontentment and frustration?
- Is your health in place, or are you struggling with health issues?
- Do you have energy throughout the day, or do you feel tired and fatigued most of the time?
- Do you know how to turn your mind into your ally, or do you feel that your mind may be sabotaging your success?
- Do you go to bed a little wiser each day, or do you spend more than an hour a day watching TV, surfing the internet, playing video games, checking your social media or gossiping?
- Do you have healthy relationships, or do you stay in relationships that are toxic?
- Are you living a life of abundance, or are you just looking to meet your immediate needs, such as paying your bills, keeping food on the table and having a roof over your head?
- Is your environment (country, city, house, office, people) conducive to your success, or is your environment detrimental to your success?
- Are you contributing to making the world a better place, or do you feel like your life is not leaving any footprints in this world?
If you have answered yes to any of the questions in bold letters, then you’re existing, but not fully living. If so, this book is for you!
You’re Not Alone…
“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” – Oscar Wilde
Most people in this world are merely existing. They feel that life happens to them, as though everything was outside of their control. They don’t have a clearly defined purpose in life, and even if they do, they do nothing – or not enough – to achieve it! They stay in the same job for years despite being unfulfilled and unhappy. They live paycheck to paycheck, without ever obtaining any financial prosperity. They don’t take any chances on improving their life, so they can maintain their current “comfortable” lifestyle. They have lost their enthusiasm for life, and do the same boring routine every day, even though they don’t really like it. They stay in toxic relationships. The list goes on!
And then, we wonder why there are so many unhappy people, or why someone overreacted, or why the customer service we received at the store was so poor!
Titans, on the other hand, make the most out of life! They are in charge of their life. They have a clearly defined purpose. They wake up inspired in the morning. They have their health in place. They find joy in life. They grow into the best version of themselves. They have relationships that nurture them. They enjoy financial prosperity. They surround themselves with beauty. And, they leave the world better than they found it.
As Winston Churchill said, “It’s not enough to have lived. We should be determined to live for something.”
You Are Going To Die… Someday.
“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.” – Steve Jobs
Being in touch with your own mortality is one of the best things you can do to live.
Most people fear dying. They don’t even want to think about it, let alone discuss it. There’s an aura of fear about the topic, and it’s certainly not something to be talked about in polite company. To do so will inevitably result in accusations about being morbid.
Instead of being afraid of dying, be afraid of not living!
Life is a gift; this is why it’s called the present. Yet this present is given to us for a limited time only – we are born, grow up
and die – and we often forget about the shortness of life unless we are reminded of its transience.
Some of us will wake up tomorrow morning, take a shower, have our coffee, say goodbye to our loved ones, and that will be the last day that our loved ones will ever see us. Some of us, the day after tomorrow, will go into our doctor’s office to get the result of a routine check-up, and the doctor will say to us, “Sit down, I’ve got some bad news for you.” And we’ll be diagnosed with some kind of terminal illness. So how can you appreciate life more?
One of the best things you can do to start living is to walk through a cemetery regularly. I know what you’re thinking ‘that’s gloomy!’ Actually, it’s not. It’s one of the most enlightening things you can do for yourself! In fact, in many traditions, such as Sufism and Tibetan Buddhism, “death meditation” is a powerful practice.
Walking through a cemetery will inevitably stir some thoughts about your own mortality – what life means, whether you are living the life you are meant to be living and what’s truly important in life.
Far from feeling morose, meandering among the tombstones and reading the epitaphs is strangely calming. Secluded within this haven of rest, the pressing “problems” of life (bills, work stress, arguments with your spouse, house repairs) become muted to stillness.
If you read the epitaphs, you will notice that some of the souls resting in the cemetery were born the same year you were born; others were only teenagers, while others were just children. How dare you complain about your life!
And that’s the thing about cemeteries: rich or poor, powerful or powerless, famous or unknown, our lives come down in the end to a resting place in the earth. If we are at all aware, this
proximity to death has an instant centering effect. Like a good meditation practice, walking through a cemetery focuses our attention on what really matters, helping us to differentiate between what is important and lasting from what is unimportant and transient.
Leaving the cemetery, you will thank the dead for returning to you the gift of life.
Minimize Your Regrets.
“A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams.” – John Barrymore
Too often we go through life on autopilot, going through the motions and having each day pass like the one before it. That’s fine until we have gone through another year without having done anything, or until we have reached old age and look back on life with regrets, or until we see our kids go off to college and realize that we missed their childhoods.
One key to living a Titan Life is to minimize the number of regrets you will have at the end of your life.
If you’re reading this, know that you’re an extremely lucky person because it means you are alive! And being alive brings you the opportunity to make the best out of your life, regardless of the time you have left.
Bronnie Ware, an Australian nurse who spent a long time working in palliative care, knows more than most of us about the thoughts, fears and doubts of the dying. According to Bronnie, the number one regret most of us have when we are near our death is: I never pursued my dreams.
Most of us go through life trying to meet other people’s expectations and not living the way we actually wanted to. Most of us never even reflect on what we truly want out of life. We
simply go on “autopilot”: we go to school; we go to college; we start working; we get married; we have children; we settle for a job that’s “secured” (by the way, there’s nothing “secured” in life), so we can continue providing for our family; eventually, we retire; and then, we die.
If this is the existence you want, nothing is wrong with it! But if a small voice inside of you says, “There must be a better way,” then, by all means, find another way!
The owner of one of my favorite restaurants in Los Angeles, California, always wanted to move to Australia and pursue his passion for surfing. One day, he sold his restaurant to one of his employees and moved to Australia.
A year later, I went to the same restaurant, and found the former owner back at the restaurant, this time, working as a waiter for his former employee. It was bizarre for me to see this.
“How was Australia?” I asked the former restaurant owner.
“I didn’t like it. It was not the way I expected it,” he replied.
“Oh, I’m sorry…” I said, trying to console him.
“No, it’s actually great because now I know that I don’t want
to be a surfer in Australia. I tried it. It was not for me…” he
replied with a big smile on his face.
I found his reasoning simply brilliant. What he was actually saying was, “Now I know that when I get older, I will not say to myself, ‘I should’ve tried it, but never did’.
As Dr. B.J. Miller, a hospice and palliative care specialist in San Francisco, says, “Loss is one thing. Regret quite another.”
Follow Your Dreams!
“The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams.” – Oprah Winfrey
If there is a single practice that will greatly improve your life is to follow your dreams. Here’s why:
- It brings purpose to your life. Dreams makes your life worth living.
- You become more confident. People who chase their dreams are sure of themselves and their life goals – nothing stands between them and their dreams.
- You wake up inspired in the morning. People who dream – and act upon their dreams! – feel energized from the moment they wake up.
- It gives you a reason to live. Your dreams are what can get you through even the worst days. If you are struggling, your dreams are your reason to keep going.
- You will provide for your family greatly! When you’re motivated by your dreams, it’s very hard to fail!
- You find new skills. When you work on your dreams, you will discover latent skills hidden in plain sight.
- Your environment improves. When you follow your dreams, you are far more likely to find like-minded people doing the same and help each other in unexpected ways.
- You become happier. When you’re busy working on your dreams, you no longer have the time or energy to spend it on people or things that do not contribute to your dreams (toxic people, videogames, alcohol, drugs, gossiping, watching TV, surfing the internet, watching porn.)
- It brightens your future while being in the present. When you work on your dreams today, your future suddenly seems more positive and brighter. Making a small step toward your dreams every day will make your future look more optimistic.
- You will contribute to making the world a better place. By working on your dreams – and achieving them, you show people possibility and inspire them to follow their own dreams.
‘Am I too old to follow my dreams?’ you might be wondering. Here’s my answer: You’re never too old to follow your dreams.
‘I always wanted to be a football player, but I’m now in my forties,” you may say. Here’s my reply: Become a football coach, become a football agent, found your own local football club. The possibilities are endless. Get creative about finding different ways to follow your dreams!
‘What if my dream gets shattered?’ you may wonder. First, if you think this way, know that your dream will most likely get shattered. But here’s my reply: A shattered dream is far better than a shattered life. So go for your dreams!
Ask yourself, what would you do if you were to die soon? What dreams would you follow? What are you passionate about? What small action could you take today to start working on your dreams? Follow your dreams before you get to the end of your life. Then, it may be too late.
As Fyodor Dostoyevsky said, “The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for.”
Know Thy Dreams.
“Definiteness of purpose is the starting point of all achievement.”– W. Clement Stone
The first step toward following your dreams is to know what your dreams are. I know it sounds silly, but you’d be surprised to know that most people don’t really know what they want out of life. This is why they are constantly sending mixed messages to the universe. Not surprisingly, they never achieve their dreams!
Titans know exactly what they want and make sure they send clear and direct messages to the universe. This is why they achieve their dreams!
So if you don’t know your dreams, don’t say you never had a chance to achieve them! This is a fine world for the person who knows exactly their dreams and is busy achieving them!
By now, you’re probably thinking, ‘Ok, great. I got it. I need to know my dreams. But how do I know what my dreams really are? Where do I get started?”
The Deathbed Exercise.
“I wanted to project myself forward to age 80 and say, ‘Okay, now I’m looking back on my life. I want to have minimized the number of regrets I have’.” – Jeff Bezos
The name of this exercise might not sound very appealing to you, but trust me, it’s one of the most life-changing exercises you can do for yourself.
If you are like most people, you have never made the time to visualize the type of life you want to live. At times, you might have fantasized about living in a beautiful mansion, driving a Rolls-Royce or having your own private jet, but very few of you have actually taken the time to really visualize the type of life you want to live.
The deathbed exercise, which is all about envisioning your Titan Life, has been shown to boost people’s positive emotions, happiness levels and optimism, improve coping skills and elevate positive expectations about the future. By doing this exercise, you will get to know yourself, your real self. You’re the only person who can figure out what you want in your life.
Spend as much or as little time on it as you want. In my experience, you will need at least an hour. You’re designing your entire life, so take your time!
Are you ready to design your life? Please follow these 10 steps:
- Take a notebook and a pen. Yes, an “old” notebook and a pen! With your creativity, handwriting is much better than typing on your computer.
- Go to a quiet place by yourself. It could be a park, a beach, a public library, your bedroom.
- Make sure all of your electronic devices are turned off, so you will have no distractions.
- Mentally fast-forward your life to the last hour of your last day, i.e., your deathbed. Visualize that moment. Where are you? Are you in a hospital room? At your home? Where’s home? What can you see through the window? Is it the ocean, the mountains, the city skyline? Who are you with? Are you alone? Are you accompanied by your spouse? Your children? Grandchildren? (Even if you have not met some of these people yet, visualize their presence.)
- And here’s the question to ask yourself: What are the dreams you will have to have achieved for you to say ‘I lived an extraordinary life’?
- Write those dreams on your notebook, no matter how “crazy” they might seem. Do you want to travel the world? Write it down. Do you want to own an airline company? Write it down. Do you want to become a best-selling author? Write it down. Whatever you want to achieve, write it down on your notepad. Don’t forget to consider all of the relevant areas of your life, such as your health, family, career, relationships, legacy, finances, hobbies. Take your time. The more specific you are, the more engaged you will be in the exercise and the more you’ll get out of it.
- Go back to the present. Your mission in life is to close the gap between where you are today and where you want to be in the future. And you close this gap simply by taking action!
BECOME THE TITAN OF YOUR LIFE!
Here are some Titan quotes you might enjoy:
“The evening of a well-spent youth brings its lamps with it.” – Joseph Joubert.
“The symphony of life should end with a grand finale of peace and serenity and material comfort and spiritual contentment.” – Lin Yutang.
“Do not let the hero in your soul perish in lonely frustration of the life you deserved.” – Ayn Rand.
“Principles are like seeds; they are little things which do much good, if the mind that receives them has the right attitudes.” – Seneca
Regardless of your current station in life or circumstances, the following five Titan Principles will help you pour a solid foundation to build your Titan Life.
Move away from these principles and the likeness of succeeding will be fleeting. Embody these principles thoroughly – and let them guide and direct your every thought, emotion, decision, and behavior – and you’ll be on your way to building true and lasting success in both your personal and your professional lives.
Here are the 5 Titan Principles:
Take 100% Responsibility Of Your Life.
“I am the master of my fate; I am the captain of my soul.” – Nelson Mandela
Whether you think life is beautiful or difficult, you are equally right. Life is neither beautiful nor difficult; it is neutral. Life in itself has no meaning. It is us who give meaning to life.
One of the most empowering – and frightening – things you have to realize is that you get to live your life the way you choose.
I encourage you to read the above sentence again because, unless you fully understand this, and engrave it in your brain, you will never enjoy a Titan Life.
You may be thinking, ‘Well, I wish I could live my life the way I choose, but there are many things in my life that I can’t control.’
Even if certain events in your life are outside of your control, you may still control one thing, and that is your reaction to said events. Therefore, you do get to live your life the way you choose.
A big part of you might still fight this idea. And the reason you might still fight this idea is that if you get to live your life the way you choose, this would imply accountability and responsibility. This would mean you would have to accept ownership for your actions and outcomes. And most people don’t like this! Most people don’t want to accept that the type of life they enjoy, they are responsible for. It’s so much easier to say, “I have such bad luck” or “I got fired” or “If I had more money” or “If I had better connections”. After all, we are simply the best at rationalizing why we are in the bad situation we are in. But these are simply excuses to continue postponing the self-examination and decision-making necessary to create a Titan Life. And beneath every excuse, there’s always fear.
While most people make excuses, Titans make things happen. While most people say, “Life happens to me,” Titans say, “I make life happen.” While most people say, “What if it doesn’t work?” or “I hope it works,” Titans say, “It will work because I will make it work.”
Your current business and personal lives result from the choices you made in the past. No one else is responsible! If you want to have a better life in the future, you must take 100% responsibility for your life!
When tennis player Rafael Nadal was about 15 years old, he was playing a tournament. His uncle and coach, Toni Nadal, was watching another kid from his academy play. Nadal was losing badly. A friend of the family noticed that Nadal was playing with a broken racket, and he informed uncle Toni accordingly. Toni immediately went to the court where his nephew was playing to tell him he was playing with a broken racquet. And then, Toni asked his nephew, “With all your experience, didn’t you realize that you were playing with a broken racket?” A 15-year old Nadal replied: “I’m so used to taking responsibility for my own mistakes that it never crossed my mind that I was playing with a broken racquet.”
Leave The Herd!
“The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane.” – Marcus Aurelius
You can fit in or you can change the world, but you can’t do both.
If you do the things that 95% of the population does, you will get the results that 95% of the population gets. Therefore, if you want to get the results that only 5% of the population gets, you must be willing to do the things that only 5% of the population is willing to do.
Don’t be part of the 95%! Don’t do what’s popular. The most popular restaurant in the world is McDonalds. The most popular drink, Coca-Cola. Are they good for you? We both know the answer.
Titans have the habit of doing the things that most people don’t like doing. They don’t necessarily like doing them either, but their dislike is subordinated to their Titan goals.
Live completely different from the way most people live. To live a Titan Life, you must install the beliefs, behaviors, habits and rituals of Titans. Having a Titan Life is simple; it’s not easy, but it’s very simple.
It’s not easy because mediocrity calls you in. I would like to clarify that to me, the word ‘mediocrity’ does not refer to someone who does not have a mansion or does not drive a specific type of car. To me, ‘mediocrity’ refers to someone unhappy with his life and does nothing about it!
Whether or not you aim for rich (this is completely up to you!), always aim for having a rich life! You may be a surf instructor and have a Titan Life!
My family and I spend a big part of the year on an island in Thailand. To most Westerners’ standards, this island would be considered a “poor place.” But I have seen more poverty of the soul in many Western, so-called “rich” countries than on this island. Everyone smiles here, and to me, whether financially rich or poor, it is indicative they are living Titan Lives.
If you are committed to leaving the herd, be ready for its consequences. Because when you act like only 5% of the population does, the remaining 95% will call you “strange,” “weird,” and “eccentric.” Get used to it because this is the price all Titans must pay!
People get threatened when you show them possibility – what they could also achieve. But as we saw in Principle #1, this would mean they would have to take full responsibility for their own lives. So it’s much easier to criticize you.
One of the biggest ways we limit our potential and deny our own Titan is following the herd and modeling the crowd. You must break free of the cult of mediocrity. You must stop listening to the chattering voices of the cynics around you. And you absolutely must trust yourself – and your instincts. And that’s what every Titan does.
Grow Yourself Into A Titan.
“Life is growth. You grow or you die.” – Phil Knight
Everything alive is constantly changing. Take any plant, for instance. If a plant is not growing, it is dying. Same with people: if you are not growing, you are dying, at least, spiritually.
Your outer world is merely a reflection of your inner world. You are the root; your results are the fruits. To change the fruits, you will first have to change the roots.
Some people say, “This is the way I am.” Well, change it! Because it’s not working for you or anyone around you!
No matter who you are or what your background is, you can always change. Be willing to let go of having to do it “your way.” If your way has proved satisfactory in the past, then, by all means, keep doing what you are doing. But if not, it may be time to consider a different way!
There are two kinds of people in life: those who evolve and those who devolve. Even those who falsely believe in the “status quo” are actually devolving. How would you feel if ten years from now you would be exactly where you are now, with zero growth? You guessed it! Bitter, miserable and unhappy.
So the question is, Who must you become to live your Titan Life?
Becoming healthy, rich and happy isn’t much about getting healthy, rich and happy. It’s about who you must become in mind, body, spirit, heart and skill to get healthy, rich and happy.
So the fastest way to become a Titan is to work on developing you. If you grow yourself to become a Titan in strength of mind, body, spirit, heart and skill, you will naturally be a Titan in anything and everything you do.
If you look at Titans around the world, they think and act in very similar ways. And these ways of thinking and acting determine their Titan results.
Proper training of your spirit, mind, body, heart and skill is essential!
Take A Holistic Approach To Life.
“In fact, if I’m happy at work, I’m better at home – a better husband and better father. And if I’m happy at home, I come into work more energized – a better employee and a better colleague.” – Jeff Bezos
Thanks to epigenetics, we now know that nutrition, exercise, sleep, the environment, the books you read, your family relationships, the conversations you have, the words you speak, even the air you breathe all affect your DNA and the quality of your life!
Your spouse, your income, your happiness, the way you treat others all reflect your self-identity. If you want to live a Titan Life, you must take a holistic approach to life.
You may have all the money in the world, but if you have no one to share it with, it will be a hollow victory. Or you may be a very spiritual person, but if you can’t pay your bills, this will, sooner or later, cause stress in your life – and those around you! Or you may exercise and eat organic foods, and you’re still getting sick??
The key word is harmony. Rather than striving to achieve some false “constant balance” in your life, it’s about arranging your life, so the different parts are in harmony. The key difference is that harmony means you can focus more on work sometimes and more on your family other times. You don’t always have to force everything to work at once. Titans pay attention to this!
Whether you like it or not, all the different aspects of your life are inextricably tied up together. If you neglect one of them, it’s not possible to live a Titan Life.
Titans are part warrior, part saint. They are confident, but humble. They are winners, but never lose their white-belt mentality. They are content, but never satisfied. They focus on success, but also on making a difference. They play golf at the country club, but also serve meals to the homeless. They love thinking and dreaming, but also executing on their ideas and dreams. They are delusional about how great they can be but realistic about their expectations of the process.
While most people must choose one or the other, Titans know that you can have it all! You must simply transition from a mentality of scarcity and limitation to one of possibility and abundance! Yes, it will take many sacrifices along the way. Yes, it won’t be easy. But it’s simple and so worth it!
Create Your “Titan Luck.”
“I’m a great believer in luck. The harder I work, the more luck I have.” – Thomas Jefferson
There’s a difference between luck and Titan Luck. Luck, you have no control over. It’s random chance. It’s a winning lottery ticket. Titan Luck, on the other hand, you create it. Titans believe in the latter, while most people believe in the former type of luck. This is why lottery tickets, all around the world, are many people’s “only shot” at a better life. If people only knew that they could create their own Titan Luck!
Does luck, then, exist? Yes, it does. But since you can’t control this type of luck, why focus on it? Why wait for this type of luck to happen randomly?
To most people, luck is important. To Titans, it’s less important. While acknowledging the existence of luck, Titans do not rely on it to live a Titan Life.
Let’s look at the life of Bill Gates to better illustrate the difference between luck and Titan Luck.
Bill Gates got lucky in the sense that:
- he was born into an upper-middle-class family with the resources to send him to a private school;
- his school had a Teletype class, which gave him access to a computer; and
- his friend Paul Allen showed him an article in Popular Science magazine about a new computer called the Altair 8800.
Bill Gates had no control over the above events. So we could say these were “lucky events.” Now the question to be asked is: “Is luck the reason Bill Gates became a Titan?” Far from it! Here’s why:
- he was not the only person who grew up in an upper-middle-class family.
- he was not the only one with access to a computer in the 1950s.
- he was not the only one who read the article in Popular Science
Thousands of people with the same lucky events could have done the same thing that Bill Gates later did, but they simply didn’t. So what did Bill Gates do differently from thousands of people with the same initial lucky events?
- he had an incessant drive.
- he dropped out of college and moved to Albuquerque to work with Altair.
- he barely slept and ate, so he could work longer hours.
- he was fanatical about writing good software.
- he didn’t believe in weekends or vacations.
Bill Gates actively created the conditions to bring himself Titan Luck. And this, you have control over!
Here are the five Titan Principles for your review:
- Take 100% responsibility for your life.
- Leave the herd!
- Grow yourself into a Titan.
- Take a holistic approach to life.
Create your “Titan luck.”
“The world turns aside to let any man pass who knows where he is going.” – Epictetus
A Titan Vision is a clearly defined vision of the type of life you want, so at the end of your life, you can say, “I lived an extraordinary life.” Without a Titan Vision, you will never get there!
All Titans have a clear vision of their future:
- Arthur Guinness signed a lease for the St. James’s Gate Brewery for 9,000 years.
- Eleanor Roosevelt had a vision of a world of equal opportunity for women and minorities.
- John F. Kennedy famously dreamed of putting a man on the moon.
- Nelson Mandela had a vision for the eradication of racism and for the establishment of a constitutional democracy in South Africa.
- Arnold Schwarzenegger had a vision of becoming bodybuilding champion and a Hollywood movie star.
- J.K. Rowling planned out the seven books of the Harry Potter series before she even wrote the first one.
- Roger Federer had a vision of becoming the best tennis player in the world.
These are just a few examples, but know that there isn’t a single Titan who became so without having a Titan Vision.
Why A Titan Vision.
“Shall we not, like archers who have a mark to aim at, be more likely to hit upon what is right?” – Aristotle
We humans need a clear target at which to aim. Otherwise, we are left with the “animal default.” And since animals live in herds, we wander through life and conforming to the group’s vision – or lack thereof –, which results in anguish, bitterness and a lack of enthusiasm for life. A Titan Vision acts as your “North Star,” giving direction to your life.
Your Titan Vision is unique for you. Whether it is becoming a best-selling author, building a business that makes a difference, writing a song that touches people’s lives, creating a non-profit you care about, fighting for social justice, raising a child that will become a great human being, traveling around the world so you can learn about what binds us as human beings, whatever it is, only you know what your Titan Vision is.
And once you have your Titan Vision clearly defined, your feelings, thoughts, words, actions and habits will all align in service of your Titan Vision, and your choices in life will be simplified – either they will contribute to your Titan Vision or they won’t.
As Johann Wolfgang von Goethe said, “Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.”
Make the time to think about what your Titan Vision in life is. When it comes to your own life, be a leader. Otherwise, the herd will lead you.
Have A Vision Larger Than Yourself.
“The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.” – Michelangelo
Most people accept a vision of themselves that is simply too small by conforming to the small visions of those around them.
Titans live for a vision larger than themselves. Whether it may be religious, civil, political, artistic, entrepreneurial, Titans are those who made great personal sacrifices for what they believed to be a vision larger than themselves: Jesus, Nelson Mandela, Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Mother Theresa, Abraham Lincoln, Picasso, Richard Branson, Steve Jobs, Barack Obama, the list goes on!
Richard Branson said, “My interest in life comes from setting myself huge, apparently unachievable challenges and trying to rise above them.”
Barack Obama stated, “It’s only when you hitch your wagon to something larger than yourself that you realize your true potential.”
And Patanjali said, “When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds: Your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world. Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive, and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be.”
By having a vision larger than yourself, it will inherently force you to think and act in a larger context, and you will develop new capabilities you didn’t know you had.
A Titan Vision Connects You To Your Future.
“If you see more continuity between yourself now and yourself in the future, you probably put more value on delayed rewards and less value on immediate rewards.” – Walter Mischel
Most people can’t connect to their future selves because they don’t have a Titan Vision of themselves. They see their future selves as complete strangers. They have an ‘I’ll-deal-with-you-tomorrow’ type of mentality. This is why most people don’t eat healthy food, don’t exercise regularly, and don’t save any money.
When connected with your future self in the present, you will be much more likely to stay disciplined and delay gratification in the present, and do the things that will be in your future self’s best interest. You will be willing to sacrifice more of your present pleasures for the sake of your future self.
How we think about the future is a key driver of our happiness, health, as well as success in school, work, and life in general. When we have a Titan Vision, our life is good! We feel excited! Our happiness and health increase. We feel like life’s worth living! On the other hand, when we’re not hopeful of our future, things turn in the opposite direction. We feel demotivated. We lack energy. And life seems like a drag.
Your ability to connect with your Titan Vision fires you up in the present!
Here are some benefits of having a Titan Vision:
- Acts as your “North Star.” It gives you a mental picture of a brighter future you can’t simply let go.
- You go to bed at night anticipating the next day and wake up in the morning excited and ready to live out your vision.
- Brings enthusiasm, optimism and happiness to your life. As Paulo Coelho said, “It’s the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting.”
- Increases your odds of becoming successful.
- Makes life worth living.
- Less willpower and self-discipline needed.
- Increases your
- Improves your health and well-being.
Helps you live longer!
“He that too much embraceth holds little.” – Romanian proverb
Now that you have your life dreams written down on your list, it’s important to rediscover what’s truly important to you. At the end of your life, it won’t be the Rolls-Royces and Ferraris that matter the most to you, but the following:
- Did you have the courage to follow your dreams?
- Who did you become as a person, father, husband, professional, friend?
- Did you find joy in life?
- Did your life bring joy to others?
- Did you leave this world better than you found it?
Considering that a lifetime is, by definition, limited in time, you must narrow down the dreams you would like to accomplish. Cut your list down to your five most important dreams. These are your Titan 5 for Life. What are the five most important things you must have accomplished at the end of your life for you to say, ‘I lived an extraordinary life?’
No worries, my ambitious friend! If you accomplish your Titan 5 for Life way before your deathbed, you might always add other dreams, but it’s important that you start with no more than five.
Imagine you have five plants and enough water for those five plants. If you tried to water ten plants with the same amount of water, you would have less water for each plant. Consequently, they would grow much more slowly. Some might even die because of not getting enough water! Well, these plants represent your dreams. The water represents your energy and time. So narrow down your list! As Bill Gates said, “My success, part of it certainly, is that I have focused in on a few things.”
Build your life around your Titan 5 for Life. Focus on them like a Titan!
Why A Titan Focus?
“The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus.” – Bruce Lee
Any Titan achievement is not a coincidence. It’s always the result of a clearly defined focus, meticulous planning and consistent execution. But it all starts with a Titan Focus.
A Titan Focus gives you clarity. And clarity is the DNA of a Titan Life.
In July 1991, Bill Gates, Sr. invited his son Bill Gates, Jr., the founder of Microsoft, and investor Warren Buffett over for dinner. Bill Gates, Sr. asked his guests: “What factor do you feel has been the most important in getting to where you’ve gotten in life?” Buffett immediately replied, “Focus.” Bill Gates, Jr. agreed.
Focus is more valuable than intelligence. There are so many “brilliant” people who never amount to anything. And there are people with average intelligence who build Titan Lives, thanks entirely to their ability to focus!
Your focus drives your behavior. As the saying goes, “Where focus goes, energy flows, and results show.” If you focus on getting bigger biceps, you will work on your biceps. The result, you will get bigger biceps!
A focus on your Titan 5 for Life empowers you with wisdom to make those judgments effectively. If your priorities grow out of your Titan 5 for Life, if they are deeply planted in your heart and in your mind, you will spend most of your time working on making your Titan 5 for Life a reality. And you will do so with Titan enthusiasm!
The Age Of Distraction.
“Until a man selects a definite purpose in life, he dissipates his energies and spreads his thoughts over so many subjects and in so many different directions that they lead not to power, but to indecision and weakness.” – Napoleon Hill
We live in the age of distraction. We receive notifications from emails, texts, social media and calls all day long. Only those who can focus can have a Titan Life.
Forget about all the projects you want to accomplish. Focus only on the one you are developing now!
Steve Jobs said, “That’s been one of my mantras – focus and simplicity. Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains.”
Alexander Graham Bell stated, “Concentrate all your thoughts upon the work at hand. The sun’s rays do not burn until brought to a focus.”
And Stefan Zweig said, “Concentration is the eternal secret of every mortal achievement.”
Titans know that it’s preferable to be Titan at a few things rather than mediocre at multiple things.
Multitasking is the Enemy.
“You do something all day long, don’t you? Everyone does. If you get up at seven o’clock and go to bed at eleven, you have put in sixteen good hours, and it is certain with most men, that they have been doing something all the time. They have been either walking, or reading, or writing, or thinking. The only trouble is that they do it about a great many things and I do it about one. If they took the time in question and applied it in one direction, to one object, they would succeed. Success is sure to follow such application. The trouble lies in the fact that people do not have an object, one thing, to which they stick, letting all else go. Success is the product of the severest kind of mental and physical application.” – Thomas A. Edison
We live in a world that celebrates and almost reveres multitasking.
When you multitask, instead of channeling your complete focus into one task, you spread it thin. This prevents you from diving deep into any of your tasks. The result, poorer outcomes, and thus, less gratification.
While most people scatter their focus, Titans focus on one thing at a time.
If some of your Titan 5 for Life are “to have my own family,” “to become a best-selling author” and “to learn to play the piano,” it’s important that you don’t scatter your focus by multitasking. It’s best to focus on one thing at a time, so you can give your undivided attention to each different thing.
Titan 5 For Life Vs. “Urgent”.
“Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.” – Stephen Covey
It’s easy to get caught in a flood of minutiae. We all have “urgent” matters that require our immediate attention.
The key to a Titan Life is to stay focused on your Titan 5 for Life rather than what is most “urgent.”
Your Titan 5 for Life are the things you must do to have a Titan Life, but somehow they seldom get done because they are not “urgent”: exercising when you are healthy, writing your book when you already have another source of income, reading when there is no one to test your knowledge, nurturing your relationships when you “believe” they will be there tomorrow. Sure, Titans also have crises and emergencies that require their immediate attention, but the number is relatively small.
One strategy to having a Titan Life is to proactively treat your Titan 5 for Life as “life and death,” even though they may not seem so in the moment… But they will when you get to your deathbed!
Simplify, Simplify, Simplify…
“Concentrate. Narrow down. Exclude.” – Henry Miller
What’s going on in your life that’s not part of your Titan 5 for Life? All that stuff is wasting your time, pulling your attention from what’s important.
As much as possible, simplify your life by eliminating the stuff that’s not on your short list, or minimizing it.
First, see what can be eliminated. Next, see what can be automated. And last, delegate the things that cannot be eliminated or automated.
The key to a Titan Life is to be productive, not busy. Do less meaningless work, so you can focus on your Titan goals.
Another thing to ask yourself is, “Are you inventing things to do to avoid the important?
Your Most Valuable Asset.
“A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life.” – Charles Darwin
What is your most valuable asset? Think about it.
Is it your health? You can be healthy, then get sick, and then regain your health. Is it your money? You can lose all your money, and then you can make it all back. Is it your spouse? Your spouse might mean everything to you. And yet, 50% of married people get divorced, and then find a new spouse that is suddenly the love of their life. How about your friends? Friends are important, and yet, how many friends have you had through your life you no longer keep in touch with?
Your most valuable asset is time. You can never lose time and get it back again. You can’t spend time and then go earn more. You can’t buy it, rent it, nor borrow it…
Time is the great equalizer. Whether rich or poor, young or old, we all have the same 24 hours in a day. How you spend your time will determine your destiny. Titans respect their time. They leverage it and use it appropriately.
Use your time wisely, and you’ll enjoy a Titan Life. Squander your time, and it will be gone forever!
Learn To Say “No.”
“People think focus means saying yes to the thing you’ve got to focus on. But that’s not what it means at all. It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are. You have to pick carefully. I’m actually as proud of the things we haven’t done as the things I have done.” – Steve Jobs
Do you ever feel like you don’t have enough time? Lack of time is lack of priorities.
One secret to having a Titan Life is to focus on your Titan 5 for Life and say “no” to the rest. Titans say “no” almost to everything.
Most people and companies fail because they focus on too many “opportunities.” Ubiquity kills a company and the human spirit. Don’t dilute your focus with other opportunities. Being selective – doing less – is the path of Titans.
The only way to free up time for your Titan 5 for Life is to have the courage to say “no” to the rest. You don’t have to be rude, but you have to be honest, especially with yourself. You either spend your every hour at the whim of other people’s expectations or you live your Titan Life. A simple “it’s not going to work for me” will do. You’ll find this liberating!
Please remember that you’re always saying “no” to something anyway. When you say “yes” to the apparently urgent things in your life, you say “no” to your Titan 5 for Life.
A Plan B Is The Enemy.
“Singleness of purpose is one of the chief essentials for success in life, no matter what may be one’s aim.”– John D. Rockefeller
Most parents tell their children that “having a plan B is necessary in case their plan A fails.” While this may seem like the reasonable thing to do, Titans have no plan B! They know that having a Plan B will only sabotage your plan A.
Failing is part of the process of a Titan. For Titans, while experimenting temporary defeat is part of the journey, but permanent failure is not an option! They focus on one thing until successful or until they decide they are through or no longer interested.
So, what do Titans do when they decide that they are through or no longer interested? They look for the next plan A! But they never start a plan A with a plan B in mind!
When in 1519, the explorer Hernán Cortés landed in Mexico to begin his great conquest, he gave the order to his men to burn the ships. Why? Because he knew that retreat is easy when you have a plan B!
Will you have a plan-B spouse in case your marriage with your current spouse does not go as expected?
If you have a plan B, it will eventually become your plan A!
“Concentrate every minute like a Roman – like a man – on doing what’s in front of you with precise and genuine seriousness, tenderly, willingly, with justice. And on freeing yourself from all other distractions. Yes, you can – if you do everything as if it were the last thing you were doing in your life, and stop being aimless, stop letting your emotions override what your mind tells you, stop being hypocritical, self-centered , irritable. You see how few things you have to do to live a satisfying and reverent life? If you can manage this, that’s all even the gods can ask of you.” – Marcus Aurelius
Only those who can concentrate on a single task at a time can have a Titan Life.
Most people feel scattered and distracted and assume they should be able to concentrate easily. And if not, there must be something wrong with them, and, therefore, they should be medicated. But this would be the same as assuming that you can be an Olympic weightlifter from the get-go! Like with anything else, concentration takes practice.
As weightlifting doesn’t just make you strong for lifting weights, but it also makes your body strong for everything you do the rest of the day, concentration practice strengthens your ability to focus for everything you do in your life.
To practice concentration, simply bring your focus onto a single task. If anything pulls your attention away – which will happen, especially initially – you calmly and gently guide it back to the focus point.
Think of it as doing repetitions with weights. To build strong muscles, you lift the weights up and down repeatedly. Each time you do it, you get a tiny bit stronger, and over a long period you get a lot stronger. It’s the repetition that is key. Eventually, you can lift a very large weight.
The same thing goes for concentration. Your mind wanders, you bring it back to the object of focus. Each time you bring your mind back to the object of focus, your concentration gets a tiny bit stronger, and over a long period it gets a lot stronger. It’s the repetition that eventually brings a Titan Focus.
By daily practice of concentration, your focus, too, can develop to Titan proportions, and without the help of any medication!
“A goal without a plan is just a wish.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
Now that you have your Titan 5 for Life clearly defined and written down, it’s important that you make specific plans for each one of them. Otherwise, they will just remain “dreams.”
Titans throughout history have used planning to prepare for the future.
Benjamin Franklin said, “By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.”
Alan Lakein wrote, “Planning is bringing the future into the present so that you can do something about it now.”
And Eleanor Roosevelt stated, “It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan.”
A Titan Life does not respond to wishes or dreams, but to Titan plans, backed by a Titan Focus through consistent Titan Action.
The Unplanned Life…
“The typical human life seems to be quite unplanned, undirected, unlived, and unsavored. Only those who consciously think about the adventure of living as a matter of making choices among options, which they have found for themselves, ever establish real self-control and live their lives fully.”– Karl Albrecht
Even if you know exactly what your Titan 5 for Life are, you will never achieve them unless you have a Titan Plan by which to attain said goals. A lack of planning, regardless of the endeavor, inevitably leads to a failure.
It’s interesting to me that most people spend more time planning their vacations than their lives. No wonder there are so many people wandering aimlessly through life.
As Jim Rohn said, “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.”
Your Plan Is Your Servant, Not Your Master.
“In preparing for battle I have always found that plans are useless, but planning is indispensable.” – Dwight D. Eisenhower
A Titan Plan is not an exact road map, but a compass. It gives you a sense of direction.
Life does not always move in straight lines. It moves more like a winding river. You can only see to the next bend, and only when you reach that next turn can you see more. But it’s important we have a sense of where the river is going!
A Titan Plan is about constant redesigning and tweaking. What worked yesterday might not necessarily work today.
Another thing to consider is you must make sure that your Titan Plan works for you. It should be tailored to your style, your needs, your particular ways. If the plan is not working for you, go back to the drawing board!
Assign Imminent Deadlines.
“A goal is a dream with a deadline.” – Napoleon Hill
Parkinson’s Law states that work expands in perceived importance and complexity in relation to the time allotted for its completion.
This means that if you give yourself a week to complete a two-hour task, then – psychologically speaking – the task will increase in complexity and become more daunting to fill that week. It may not even fill the extra time with more work, but just stress and tension about having to get it done.
Use Parkinson’s Law to accomplish more in less time. Shrink your mental deadlines. If you believe that something will take you an hour to do, give yourself 45 minutes instead.
By assigning an imminent deadline, you will be forced to work faster and focus more. The task will psychologically reduce in complexity. This is the magic of the imminent deadline!
“For tomorrow belongs to the people who prepare for it today.” – African proverb
Backward planning is one of the best productivity tools you can use to make your Titan 5 for Life a reality.
The idea is to start with your ultimate objective – your Titan 5 for Life – and then work backward from there to develop your plan.
Backward planning differs from traditional planning. You must force yourself to think from a completely new perspective, to help you see things you might miss if you use traditional planning.
By starting at the end and looking back, you can prepare yourself for success, map out the milestones you need to reach, and realize where in your plan you have to be particularly gritty or creative to achieve the desired outcome.
Break Down your Goals.
“The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, and starting on the first one.” – Mark Twain
A Titan Plan breakdowns your Titan 5 for Life into smaller, actionable goals.
Let’s say you want to write a book. Writing a book may seem like a daunting task, especially for someone who has never written a book. So how do you actually write a book? One chapter at a time. How do you write a chapter? One paragraph at a time. How do you write a paragraph? One word at a time!
Unless you breakdown your Titan 5 for Life into smaller, actionable goals, you will never get there because your Titan 5 for Life may look so unsurmountable that it becomes discouraging to even start!
By breaking down your goals, not only will you be working on actionable goals, but you will also build momentum with each small victory you will achieve.
Since you already have your Titan 5 for Life, ask yourself:
- What are my Titan 5 for the Next 10 Years?
- What are my Titan 5 for the Next 3 Years?
- What are my Titan 5 for the Year?
- What are my Titan 5 for the Quarter?
- What are my Titan 5 for the Month?
- What are my Titan 5 for the Week?
- What are my Titan 5 for Today?
As Jay-Z said, “We made short and long-term projections, we kept it realistic, but the key thing is that we wrote it down, which is as important as visualization in realizing success.”
Plan Your Week.
“The week gives you the most manageable perspective.” – Stephen Covey
Planning your week is the blueprint for a Titan week! It gives you a sense of direction and purpose to the way you spend each day.
Your mind needs a trusting system to focus your actions; otherwise, it gets distracted with other issues.
The week has 168 hours! It has work days, evenings, the weekend. It’s close enough to be relevant, but distant enough to provide perspective.
Planning your week, once a week, before the week begins, is one of the most powerful strategies to help you find harmony and increase your productivity. In addition, it will put you in touch with your Titan 5 for Life by setting daily goals and scheduling activities for each one of your Titan 5 for Life.
Yes, you can still adapt and prioritize daily as needed. But it will be easier to get back on track since you already know where your week is heading!
The best time to plan your week is Sunday morning.
How to Plan Your Week.
“It’s not the will to win that matters. Everyone has it.
It’s the will to prepare to win that matters.” – Coach Bear Bryant.
On Sunday morning, while the rest of the house sleeps, take one or two hours of solitude. (Please, turn off your devices!) This is the time to craft your Titan Week! Here are the Titan steps:
- Review your Titan 5 for Life, Titan 5 for the Next 10 Years, Titan 5 for the Next 3 Years, Titan 5 for the Year, Titan 5 for the Quarter and Titan 5 for the Month.
- Review your past week. Journal about it. Write a paragraph for each individual day. This way, you will start noticing patterns. Did you achieve your Titan 5 from the past week? Check off the items you achieved. Ideally, you have achieved all your Titan 5 for the Week. If not, learn why you didn’t achieve them, and make sure you achieve them in the upcoming week.
- Write three Titan Victories from the past week. Write three Titan Lessons from the past week. Ask yourself, ‘What do I need to improve in the upcoming week?’
- Plan the week ahead. Remember to include not only your business meetings, but also your family time, workouts, reading, hobbies, wake-up time, meals, supplements, naps, bedtime, even your free time. What gets scheduled gets done! You might say that your family is important to you, but why aren’t they on your schedule? Or, you might say that your health is important, but your schedule says otherwise. As Stephen Covey said, “The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.”
Harmony in life comes down to weekly planning.
“Never begin the day until it is finished on paper.” – Jim Rohn
It’s important to reflect on what we want to achieve before we start our day.
In the same way that making a grocery list will make you enjoy your shopping because you won’t have to remember what you had to buy, planning your day will make you focus on the really important things, so you can enjoy the process.
By simply taking 5-10 minutes each morning to strategically plan out your day, you’ll be able to get significantly more out of your day.
Titans are highly organized. They know that if they don’t schedule their days, other people’s priorities will infuse their days.
If you look at Bill Gates or Elon Musk, they plan their days in 5-minute intervals. Other Titans plan their days in 15-minute chunks. I recommend you start with planning your days in 30-minute intervals.
So plan your day, and don’t forget to sprinkle simple pleasures throughout your day!
Titan 5 for Today Vs. Tasks & Errands.
“The secret of all victory lies in the organization of the non obvious.” – Marcus Aurelius
Your Titan 5 for Today are not to be confused with your Tasks & Errands.
Your Titan 5 for Today contribute to taking you closer to your Titan 5 for the Week, which take you closer to your Titan 5 for the Month, which take you closer to your Titan 5 for the Quarter, which take you closer to your Titan 5 for the Year, which take you closer to your Titan 5 for the Next 3 Years, which take you closer to your Titan 5 for the Next 10 Years, which take you closer to your Titan 5 for Life!
Your Tasks & Errands are not necessarily related to your Titan 5 for Life, but are things we all have to do: buying groceries, picking up your shirt from the dry-cleaners, you get the idea.
The problem is when you give priority to your Tasks & Errands, instead of your Titan 5 for Today.
Divide your day in Titan 5 for Today and Tasks & Errands, and tackle your Titan 5 for Today first. Next, tackle your Tasks & Errands, for example, after 4:00 PM or 5:00 PM, when your energy levels are low.
In addition, try batching your Tasks & Errands. For example: check your emails and reply to them once or twice a day all together, set a time to return all your calls, set a day to check your mail once a week. This way, you’ll be more efficient as you will minimize the mental burden of task switching.
Always ask yourself, “Will this further my Titan 5 for Life?” If not, it’s a task or errand!
Other Titan Tips For Planning.
- Get a planner. Have it in front of you at all times. Freedom comes from a stable life.
- Schedule your family trips in January for the entire year and arrange your life around those family vacations.
- Schedule time with the people you love. Have a family day, at least once a week.
- Plan your weekly date with your spouse or partner.
- Schedule alone time.
- Plan breaks through the day: meditation, naps, breathing, snacks, meals, free time.
- Set up a start time and a finish time, with constant breaks. You will become more productive!
- Commune with nature, at least once a week.
- Plan your weekly meals. If you’re “too busy to cook,” cook all your weekly meals on Sunday, so you just have to heat them up during the week. Your health and finances will thank you!
- Plan your grocery shopping day. Go grocery shopping at unusual times. You will go in and come out more quickly. Besides, you will enjoy the shopping experience more!
- Leave space around things in your day. Don’t stack appointments or tasks back to back.
- Plan your weekly cleaning day. Use Parkinson’s Law to do everything as quickly as possible!
- Don’t forget to schedule times for fun as well!
- Take a few minutes in the morning to review your daily schedule and plan for a Titan day!
“Successful people are simply those with successful habits.” – Brian Tracy
Success comes from what we do daily, not from occasional home runs.
For thousands of years, success in human life has been studied by great thinkers and philosophers. They all seem to agree that the secret to becoming a Titan is not talent or willpower, but Titan Habits.
Your outcomes in life result from your habits. Who you are today results directly from the habits you have formed in the past. So to have a better you in the future, you must form new, better habits in the present.
By forming Titan Habits, you, too, can become successful and live a Titan Life.
Consistency of Purpose.
“Long term consistency will always trump short term intensity.” – Bruce Lee
The key to a Titan Life is consistency. A Titan Life does not come about from what you do sometimes. It results from consistent effort toward your goals.
Consistency of purpose is the mother of mastery. You may be very talented, but unless you pay the price day in and day out, you will never achieve a Titan Life.
Be constantly taking action! Cement a little each day! It’s about what you do most of the time. Let me give you an example:
Let’s say you and your significant other brush your teeth every evening before going to bed. One day, you are both lying in bed, enjoying a great conversation. A couple of hours go by and you both now feel sleepy. You kiss each other good night and forget – or decide not – to brush your teeth that night. What do you think will happen to your oral hygiene? Nothing major! Because what matters is what you do most of the time. And most of the time – most evenings – you do brush your teeth!
The same can be said about your Titan Goals. When you take action daily, even if you slack or decide to take a break on a particular day to play with your son, you will still be well on your way to achieving your Titan Goals because what matters is what you do most of the time. And most of the time, you take action toward your goals!
However, make it a rule never to skip two days in a row, unless it’s part of your Titan Recovery period (more on this in a later chapter!).
“Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.” – Mother Teresa
Most people fail at installing new habits because they set these huge goals that are neither actionable nor sustainable, at least initially. These are the people who are trying to achieve “overnight success.” And a Titan Life is never an overnight success!
Every new Titan Habit you want to install must start off small. For instance, if you do not have the habit of going to the gym daily, don’t set your goal to go to the gym five days a week for an hour each time! Instead, plan to go to the gym three times a week, for fifteen minutes each time. Or if you do not have the habit of reading daily, don’t set your goal to read a book a week! Instead, plan to read two pages three nights a week.
What matters is that you get in the habit of going to the gym or reading. Quickly, you’ll be wanting to go to the gym and read for either longer sessions or more frequently!
Small, consistent action, over time, form Titan habits.
Habits Work Like Compound Interest.
“Understanding both the power of compound interest and the difficulty of getting it is the heart and soul of understanding a lot of things.” – Charlie Munger
Habits, like compound interest, only accumulate over time. That’s when you will see the results!
Titan results do not come overnight! You must be patient and confident that your Titan habits, when done consistently, will lead you to Titan results in the future, even when you do not see any apparent results in the present!
And that’s the thing about Titan Habits. You have to trust that, if you plant seeds day in and day out, the results will “suddenly” come. Because they will come!
Let’s say Mary and Christine are best friends. After going to the beach with their friend Victoria and seeing, firsthand, how amazing she looks, they – Mary and Christine – decide to go to a gym together. They pay the most expensive gym membership they can afford, consciously or subconsciously, thinking that the more expensive the gym membership is, the better the equipment will be and, therefore, the faster the results will come! They buy new workout clothes and gear and go to the gym five days a week! Three weeks later, Christine, upon not seeing any visible results, quits. So long to the new workout clothes and gear! Mary, who has also been reading about the importance of consistency, keeps coming to the gym five days a week. Christine gets transferred to another city for work. A year later, Christine is back home for Christmas, and she meets Mary for coffee. To Christine’s astonishment, Mary looks amazing! Christine, being a good friend, tells Mary so. Mary, surprised, says: “Thank you!” To Christine’s eyes, Mary has become an “overnight success”! Christine now inquires about the type of diet she is following, whether she eats carbs or not, her supplements, her “secrets.” Mary, flattered, does not know what to say. What Christine fails to realize is that Mary kept “compounding interest” by going to the gym day after day. At the same time, Mary is surprised because she sees little change in herself. She kind of notices that her waist is slimmer – this is why she now uses a smaller pants size, but that’s about it.
Like your savings account, your growth can be quite remarkable when you look back at what or where you used to be. Even though your savings account is constantly growing, you do not notice its growth from day to day. Even when making progress, you may not notice your own improvement. How fast or how slow should not be your concern; what matters is that you’re moving forward! Your savings account grows faster or slower, depending on the economic cycle. You also have “cycles” where growth accelerates, but it’s slower at other times. Yet, as long as you take consistent action, you will always be growing!
Do not be discouraged by what you perceive as your lack of growth. If you have not given up, then you are growing. You just may not see it until much later!
Installing A New Habit.
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” – Aristotle
Installing a Titan Habit is harder than installing a bad habit. The reason is simple. While the reward of a bad habit is immediate (eating a doughnut, smoking a cigarette), the reward of a Titan Habit is delayed (eating healthy, working out, writing a book).
From an evolutionary perspective, we humans are wired to want immediate payoffs. We want things now rather than later! In prehistoric times the availability of food was uncertain. This is why our instinct, like other animals, is to seize the reward at hand (food, water, sex) to survive. And resisting this instinct is hard! Our tendency is to grab the smaller, immediate reward and skip the larger but delayed reward.
Installing a Titan Habit is always hard initially. It’s hard because it is a disruption of your neurobiology. You must recode your brain. You must break the patterns of your natural instincts or the ones you have acquired, sometimes, for years! The old part of you must die and the new part of you must be born. And like with any birth, it hurts! Ask any mother.
According to University College London, it takes an average of 66 days of daily action to install a new habit. After 66 days, according to the research, it becomes automatic and easier to do the new habit than not to do it. You don’t have think about it. It becomes second nature.
Installing a new habit may be compared to the launching of a space shuttle. In the initial stage, the space shuttle uses the greatest amount of fuel because it needs to conquer the forces of gravity. In the second stage, the space shuttle has already conquered the initial forces of gravity, but interestingly enough, this is when most space shuttle accidents happen. In the third and final stage, momentum kicks in, and the space shuttle glides easily, without using much fuel.
Similarly, in the initial stage is when we need to use more willpower (fuel) to conquer our already ingrained habits (forces of gravity). In the second stage, this is when we “think” that we don’t have to use that much willpower, but upon seeing no apparent results, you start questioning yourself. ‘What’s the point of doing this? ‘This isn’t working.’ ‘Why bother?’ This is the stage where you’re most likely to “fall” (when most accidents happen). But if you press through like a Titan, you will build momentum, and you get to the third and final stage where all the hard work, sacrifice and suffering pay off as the new habit that you’ve been working on integrates at a spiritual, mental, physical and emotional level. It becomes part of who you are (without using much fuel!). You come out more skilled and in better touch with your Titan self.
Don’t give up! What’s hard today will become easier tomorrow with practice!
Build Your Titan System.
“When I’m in writing mode for a novel, I get up at 4:00 am and work for five to six hours. In the afternoon, I run for 10km or swim for 1500m (or do both), then I read a bit and listen to some music. I go to bed at 9:00 pm. I keep to this routine every day without variation. The repetition itself becomes the important thing; it’s a form of mesmerism. I mesmerize myself to reach a deeper state of mind. But to hold to such repetition for so long — six months to a year — requires a good amount of mental and physical strength. In that sense, writing a long novel is like survival training. Physical strength is as necessary as artistic sensitivity.” – Haruki Murakami
Everyone has dreams. Titans build systems to achieve them.
Most people focus on the goal. Titans focus on the process, the systems! They only check on the goal occasionally – once a week – to make sure they are on the right track, but they focus on the processes, the systems that help them achieve their Titan results.
If you look at the most successful people, companies, and sport clubs around the world, they all have built, whether consciously or unconsciously, regular and reliable routines that cause their Titan results. Here are a few examples:
Barcelona FC ’s
6:45 AM – Wake up & Breakfast.
7:30 AM – Off to school.
8:00 AM – School.
2:00 PM – Lunch.
3:00 PM – Soccer-related conference.
3:30 PM – English lesson.
4:00 PM – Baccalaureate lesson.
5:00 PM – Training starts.
8:00 PM – Free time.
9:00 PM – Dinner.
9:30 PM – Free Time.
10:30 PM – Bedtime.
7:00 AM – Breakfast.
8:00 AM – Tennis Practice.
12:00 PM – Lunch
2:00 PM – Strength Training.
4:00 PM – Dance Class.
5:00 PM – Rehab.
6:00 PM – Dinner with Family.
8:00 PM – Social Media and Promotional
12:00 AM – Sleep.
7:10 AM – Wake up.
8:00 AM – Take the dogs out. Make coffee. Read five quotes.
8:30 AM – Spiritual exercises. Sufi reading. Meditation.
9:00 AM – Workout.
10:30 AM – Business Meetings (or gardening if it’s Thursday!)
12:30 PM – Lunch.
1:30 PM – Business meetings.
3:30 PM – Some form of exercise.
4:30 PM – Tea and reading.
6:00 PM – Dinner & take the dogs out.
7:00 PM – Spend time with loved ones.
9:30 PM – Bath, gratitude & bedtime.
As you can see, Titans have systems, so if on a particular day, they don’t feel “inspired” or “motivated,” they still do it because they follow the system.
If you want to be a Titan soccer player, do what Titan soccer players do. If you want to become a Titan tennis player, do what Titan tennis players do. And if you want to be a Titan media mogul, learn about the routines of Titan media moguls!
Developing Titan systems is how to build your Titan Life. So when you get out of bed, you already know what to expect. Develop a system for all aspects of your life: spirit, mind, body, heart, skill, environment, finances, and in everything you do, don’t forget about your legacy!
I heard Sylvester Stallone once say at a writer’s seminar in Los Angeles he writes every day. He wakes up at 4:30 a.m. and writes for three straight hours, every single day. Even if he has nothing to write, he still sits there for the full amount of time.
A Titan system matters! Most people put much effort into getting their goals, but unless you build a Titan System that will allow you to be consistent, you will never get there! The system works because you work the system. So don’t forget to take action!
Wake Up Early!
“It is well to be up before daybreak, for such habits contribute to health, wealth, and wisdom.” – Aristotle
Titans wake up early.
Thomas Jefferson said, “The sun has not caught me in bed in fifty years.”
Jonathan Swift said, “I never knew a man come to greatness or eminence who lay abed late in the morning.”
And Benjamin Franklin said, “The early morning has gold in its mouth.”
The only way to accomplish Titan things in life and be in charge of your destiny is if you wake up early. While the rest of the world is asleep, you have an average of an hour or 90 minutes of advantage above the rest.
When you wake up early, you put “mind over mattress.” And this gives you the first victory of the day! It sets you up for discipline and success. This discipline will give you the same courage to go to the gym, talk to customers, make difficult phone calls, read, and eat healthy food.
The Power of Morning & Evening Rituals.
“Think in the morning, act in the noon, read in the evening, and sleep at night.” – William Blake
There are two parts of your day you can always control: your morning and your evening. All hell can break loose throughout your day, but you can always control how you start your day and how you finish it.
The purpose of your morning ritual is to prime you for Titan Action, while the purpose of your evening ritual is to prime you for Titan Recovery.
Your Titan Morning Ritual.
“How you start your day is how you live your day.
How you live your day is how you live your life.” – Louise Hay
Your Titan Morning Ritual is sacred to your self-mastery, wellbeing and happiness. This is the daily time for you to take your life to the next level in all aspects of life. This is the time for you to work on developing you.
Each day is a new day and a new opportunity to build a Titan Life. Your Titan Morning Ritual sets the tone for a Titan day.
While most people start their days in a reactive mode (watching the news, checking their cell phones, emails, social media), Titans start their day in a proactive mode, meaning, they’re in charge of their mornings.
The morning is when you are most impressionable, so you must make sure that you “impress” your brain with the right stuff! Your willpower is highest in the morning, so why start your day with other people’s priorities?
Get up at least an hour earlier. This does not mean you will sleep an hour less each night. Quite the opposite! It means you will have to discipline yourself to go to sleep an hour earlier each evening. Here are some Titan strategies:
- Drink a glass of lukewarm water with freshly squeezed lemon. (Add a bit of ulmo honey if you can!) Before you do this, brush your teeth and tongue. Otherwise, you will swallow the bacteria you accumulated in your mouth during the night.
- Watch the sun rise.
- Reflect on your life.
- Be grateful for your blessings.
- Visualize & do affirmations (or pray.)
- Read something inspirational.
- Plan, or review, your day.
- Take a shower. Alternate hot and cold water.
- Have a Titan breakfast.
- Connect with your loved ones.
While there’s probably not an ideal morning ritual that fits everyone, see what works for you! What matters is that you find your own Titan Morning Ritual. While the rest of the world is asleep, give yourself 60-90 minutes for your Titan Morning Ritual. The world needs you to play at your best!
Your Titan Project.
“To change your life, you need to change your priorities.” – Mark Twain
After you do your Titan Morning Ritual, the next thing Titans do is they spend thirty to sixty minutes working on their Titan Project.
Your Titan Project is the one project that will change the game for you – and your family – and that will not only make a name for you but also generate long-term income and will give you lasting satisfaction and happiness.
Before working on your Titan Project, make up your mind, concentrate like a professional athlete before a big competition, and ask God, the Universe or your Higher Self for guidance and help. Then, do the work!
Your Titan Evening Ritual.
“End your day with a smile, a happy thought, and a grateful heart.” – Clint Walker
Titans don’t wait until the morning to prepare for a Titan day. They start the night before!
The close of each day is just as important as the start. By implementing an evening ritual, you will prepare yourself for the next morning, recharge with a restful night and minimize the resistance you encounter in getting things done.
Around an hour and a half before going to bed, start your Titan Evening Ritual. Here are some Titan strategies:
- Take a walk after dinner, ideally through a park or in nature.
- Turn off your electronic devices at least ninety minutes before your bedtime.
- Review your past day. Anything that you could not achieve today? No worries! Life is not always perfect! Make sure you do it tomorrow!
- Debrief about your day.
- Celebrate three small victories you achieved.
- Plan your next day. Design the blueprint for a Titan day tomorrow.
- Take a hot shower or bath with Epsom salts.
- Connect with your loved ones.
- Go to bed early.
Again, while there’s probably not an ideal evening ritual that fits everyone, see what works for you! What matters is that you find your own Titan Evening Ritual.
“Plans are only good intentions unless they immediately degenerate into hard work.” – Peter Drucker
A Titan Life is achieved by those who take Titan action.
The bridge between where you are now and where you want to be in the future is built through action.
While most people procrastinate and wait for the “ideal circumstances,” Titans take action now. While most people think or talk about acting, Titans act. While most people are busy being busy, Titans are busy working on their Titan 5 for Life. While most people take forever to get educated because they believe they must know every single detail in advance, Titans do “ready, fire, arm!,” and then, correct along the way. While most people lack consistency and work when they feel “inspired” or “motivated,” Titans show up all the time, whether they feel inspired and motivated or not. As Picasso said, “Inspiration exists, but it must find you working.”
Titans work very, very hard. They get more done in a day than most people get done in a month. If you work as much as everyone around is working, you are being like most people. And if you do what most people do, you will get the results that most people get. So to get the results that only Titans get, you have to work harder than anyone else and “stretch your muscles” so Titan level of work becomes normal.
The path to a Titan Life is a very lonely road. Yes, you will need a Titan Team to get to the top (more on this in a later chapter!), but you must realize that Titans must work even when their team is not around and no one is watching them.
“A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.” – Lao Tzu
Now is the time to start working on your Titan Life because you are younger now than you ever will be again!
Most people take forever to get educated before taking any action. They use their learning and reading as an excuse to prevent them from doing the work. Titans prepare and research in as short a time as possible, then take action, and then correct along the way.
If you think about it, what is the point of constantly reading inspiring articles, reading books, and watching motivational videos if you don’t use that knowledge? Knowledge is power, but power is the ability to act on that knowledge.
Stop waiting for the “perfect circumstances” because they will never come. To accomplish Titan things in life, you must start where you are today, with whatever tools you may have. As you move forward, better tools will appear on your way. As Maya Angelou said, “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”
Get in the game with whatever you’ve got from wherever you are. Put out your product, write your book, start your foundation, ASAP, and then, tweak as you go.
Don’t sit around another year, watching other people live their Titan Lives! Nothing will work until you make it work.
Act With A Sense Of Urgency.
“The trouble is you think you have time.” – Buddha
One of the keys to having a Titan Life is to act with a sense of urgency.
Most people have no urgency to create the life of their dreams, no urgency to attain financial freedom, and no urgency to improve their life.
The main problem is that most people are struggling in life, but not enough! They have just enough money to get by, live an average life, and since everyone around them is doing the same, they subconsciously say to themselves, ‘why change?’ I call this the middle-class syndrome: you’re not wealthy enough to have the life of your dreams, but not poor enough to be hungry for more!
To build a Titan Life, you must develop a sense of urgency. You must treat your Titan 5 for Life as if they were life and death! They may not seem like “life and death” in the moment, but they will when you get to your deathbed and realize that regrets replaced dreams…
To create a sense of urgency in the present, you must cultivate an inner drive and desire to get on with the job quickly and do it fast!
A sense of urgency feels very much like racing against yourself. And once this sense of urgency is ingrained in you, you develop a bias for action.
Pablo Picasso had an artistic career of approximately 70 years. His body of work is estimated at about 50,000 works of art in all media. If you do the math, this is about 2 pieces a day, including weekends. However, for paintings specifically, almost all of his works were very fast, and generally, he averaged three per day when he was in painting mode.
Here are some quotes on acting with a sense of urgency you might enjoy:
Leonardo da Vinci said, “I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do.”
Isabel Allende stated, “From journalism I learned to write under pressure, to work with deadlines, to have limited space and time, to conduct an interview, to find information, to research, and above all, to use language as efficiently as possible and to remember always that there is a reader out there.”
And Malcolm Gladwell said, “The most successful entrepreneurs not only have courage and imagination, they also have a sense of urgency. They’re not willing to wait. They have a burning desire to get something done.”
Be Patient About Seeing the Results.
“It took me 17 years and 114 days to become an overnight success.” – Leo Messi
Patience is a Titan quality. James Cameron took 10 years to create Avatar, from idea to final product. Stephen King’s novella Carrie was rejected by 30 publishers. And Nelson Mandela served 27 years in prison before he became the president of South Africa.
Most people start a new project or a new year’s resolution, and a couple of weeks into it, they quit. Why? Because they don’t see any results soon enough! They have been planting seeds, but after seeing that “none of them grew,” they pack up and leave! This is why most people flit from interest to interest, never really accomplishing anything.
To live a Titan Life, realize that the last thing to grow on a fruit tree is the fruit. Don’t judge each day by the harvest you
reap, but by the seeds you plant. And, if you continue planting seeds, day in and day out, one day, the sun and the rain will come out, and your plant will grow! As Epictetus said, “No great thing is created suddenly.”
Be patient, and trust that the results will come… if you put in the work!
Be Patiently Impatient About Building Your Titan Life.
“Be urgent about making the effort, and patient about seeing the results.” – Ralph Marston
You’re probably thinking, ‘Ok, so I need to act with a sense of urgency, but I also need to be patient? That’s right!
If you are not patient, you’ll quit when the results don’t come soon. At the same time, if you don’t act with a sense of urgency, not worrying about deadlines and constantly reminding yourself that “good things take time,” a year will go by and you’ll have almost nothing to show for it. The result in both scenarios? You will fail in achieving your Titan 5 for Life.
Here’s one of the keys to building a Titan Life: You must have a sense of urgency about taking action and be patient about seeing the results.
Plant seeds with a sense of urgency, day in and day out, and wait patiently for the sun and rain to come out. Building a Titan Life is a marathon, but your daily practice is a sprint.
Finish What You Start.
“Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve.” – Benjamin Franklin
Finishing is hard for most people, particularly if there are no external penalties. But this is one of the things that separates Titans from most people. While most people dabble with different projects and then drop them when it gets difficult or boring, Titans always finish what they start.
Forget all the projects you want to do. Have the discipline, focus and resolve to complete the one in hand.
There’s no easier way to feel fulfilled, confident and worthy than to finish what you started. Your family will be proud, and, most importantly, you will be proud! As Thomas Carlyle said, “Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.”
When you push through a difficult project, you don’t get to the other side; you reach to the Next Level. Thus, taking Titan Action is a great practice for character-building.
“Continuous improvement is better than delayed perfection.” – Mark Twain
Kaizen is a Japanese word that could be translated as “constant improvement.”
More than anything, kaizen is an attitude, a commitment to constantly improving all areas of your life (spirit, mind, body, heart, skill, team, environment, finances, legacy). Because small daily improvements, over time, lead to Titan results.
And this is exactly what happened when Dave Brailsford was hired as the new performance director of the British cycling team in 2003.
Since 1908, British cyclists had won just a single gold medal at the Olympic Games and had never won the Tour de France. The performance of British cyclists had been so poor that one of the top bike manufacturers in Europe refused to sell bikes to the team because they were afraid that it would hurt sales if other professionals saw the British cyclists using their gear. What made Dave different from previous coaches was his relentless commitment to kaizen.
Dave and his coaches redesigned the bike seats to make them more comfortable. They rubbed alcohol on the tires for a better grip. They tested various fabrics in a wind tunnel to see which one was more aerodynamic. They tested different types of massage oil to see which one led to the fastest muscle recovery. They hired a sleep coach to determine the pillows and mattresses that led to the best night’s sleep for each cyclist. They hired a doctor to teach each cyclist the best way to wash their hands to reduce the chances of catching a cold.
These and other small improvements accumulated and led to Titan results faster than anyone could have imagined! Just five years after Dave took over, the British cycling team won an astounding 60 percent of the gold medals available at the 2008 Olympic Games in Beijing. Four years later, at the Olympic Games in London, the British cyclists set nine Olympic records and seven world records. That same year, Bradley Wiggins became the first British cyclist to win the Tour de France. The next year, his teammate Chris Froome won the race, and he would win again in 2015, 2016 and 2017. And, the next year, Geraint Thomas, another teammate, also won the race, giving the British team six Tour de France victories in seven years!
Make today better than yesterday! Commit to improve all aspects of your life 1 percent at a time. These will accumulate and lead you to Titan results!
Focus On The Process.
“When walking, walk. When eating, eat.” – Zen proverb
Most people think they will be happy when they have achieved this or that. But that is not the case!
Research on hedonic adaptation shows we adapt quickly after reaching our goals. We may be happy for a few days, but after that, we will be about as happy (or unhappy!) as before reaching the goal. That’s why we must not tie our happiness to the outcome, but to the process. Otherwise, you will give up before you attain the desired outcome.
Titans are not those who constantly sacrifice pleasure by imagining the day they will finally get to become a Titan. Titans are those who focus on the satisfaction they feel every time they make a step forward or accumulate a new piece of knowledge!
We, humans, stay engaged in hard work when we feel like we are making progress. By setting and achieving small goals daily, we tap into a constant flow of immediate gratification which keeps us motivated in pursuit of our long-term goal.
One of the secrets to a Titan Life is not about delaying gratification, but about discovering gratification along the way. Therefore, focus on the process, not the final result!
Keep a Victory Logbook.
“Remember to celebrate milestones as you prepare for the road ahead.” – Nelson Mandela
Success is a series of small victories. Celebrating your small victories is one of the best things you can do to live a Titan Life!
When you experience even small amounts of success, your brain releases dopamine, which is connected to feelings of pleasure, learning and motivation. When you feel the effects of dopamine, you are eager to repeat the actions that resulted in success in the first place. This is why achieving small goals – and celebrating them! – is such an effective way to build momentum to stay on track with your long-term goals.
If you are constantly looking ahead and never taking the time to celebrate your accomplishments, you will most likely get burned out. And when you get burned out, you will lose the motivation to stay focused on your long-term goals.
By celebrating and keeping a logbook of your victories, no matter how small, you get to savor your accomplishments and keep track of your progress. And the more you savor your victories and keep track of your progress, the less you will need the applause of other people – because you get to applaud yourself for your own accomplishments –, and the more fuel you will get to build momentum and achieve your long-term goals.
Sam Walton said, “Celebrate your successes. Find some humor in your failures.”
Richard Branson stated, “If you set daily goals and work through your list every day, you can mark off every completed task with a satisfying tick. This helps keep you motivated to aim for the big targets.”
And Oprah Winfrey said, “The more you celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.”
A Victory Logbook should be separate from your journal. This is the place where you will “only” write about your victories, whether big or small. Write about how wonderful it felt to achieve X milestone. In the end, no one else understands what it took to accomplish it!
When you have a record of the progress you have made in achieving your Titan goals, you will feel encouraged to try even harder! In addition, your Victory Logbook will especially come in handy next time you go through a tough time – like everyone does sometimes – when you start losing your confidence or letting your “loser” side come out. In these cases, read your Victory Logbook to remind yourself of the Titan you are!
Whether you are trying to write a book, produce a high-quality product or overcome any life challenges, celebrating your progress, even if small, can make all the difference!
Here are some benefits of keeping a Victory Logbook:
- Boosts positive emotions and motivation.
- Increases confidence.
- Builds momentum.
- Increases creativity and productivity.
- Boosts happiness.
- Helps you stay on track with your goals.
- Saves your life when things are looking gloomy.
“Our energies are destroyed because of the high tempo, the abnormal pace at which we go.” – Norman Vincent Peale
Titans understand the importance of working smart rather than working hard. They know that Titan Action without Titan Recovery leads to the depletion of the very personal assets that make them a Titan.
Often, when we think of taking Titan Action toward our goals, we focus only on the performance part, without realizing that the recovery part is equally important.
A Titan Recovery is perhaps the most commonly overlooked aspect of most achievers. Perhaps it’s because most achievers feel they’re not working hard enough, so the need for rest seems counterintuitive. They’re more concerned about underperforming than overperforming.
Did you ever wonder why even though you’re eating healthy and are exercising, you’re still getting sick? Because when you just focus on the performance part and don’t take care of the recovery part, this weakens your immune system, which makes you more susceptible to germs, especially during the flu season.
What’s the point of constantly taking action if you then have to call in sick or be at your 50 percent? For building your Titan Life, you cannot afford to be sick or be at your 50 percent!
This is why adding recovery time is essential for health, peak performance and continued progression. Without recovering properly, you will stall your progress – or worse yet, reverse it! Besides, your body is wiser than you. Either you slow down or it will slow you down!
Stress Is Not The Enemy
“Stress is not necessarily something bad – it all depends on how you take it. The stress of exhilarating, creative successful work is beneficial, while that of failure, humiliation or infection is detrimental.” – Hans Selye
Stress is not the enemy. What’s dangerous is not having any recovery period from stress.
There are two types of stress:
- Distress (negative stress). This type of stress is the major cause of most health problems in the world. Stress hormones basically shuts down your life by shutting off your immune system, shutting your growth and triggering reflexive behavior. Pharmaceutical companies love this type of stress, as it creates more profits for them!
- Eustress (positive stress). This type of stress is good for you! It provokes you to perform at your peak, to amp up your game. It works as a stimulus for growth and expansion, so you leave your comfort zone. It pushes you to the edges of your limits.
The key to a Titan Life is not to aim for a zero-stress life, but to reduce the amount of distress you allow in your life and to recover from the eustress you constantly put yourself through to grow.
How To Recover Like A Titan.
“Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass under trees on a summer’s day, listening to the murmur of the water, or watching the clouds float across the sky, is by no means a waste of time.” – John Lubbock
Recovery does not just take care of itself. It should be a planned element of any Titan.
Titans, even when resting or having a good time, do so to give their mind, body and spirit a break, so they can get back to being Titan with their energies renewed.
To see results from your Titan Action, you must give your mind, body and spirit time to adapt and recover. Growth, whether mentally, physically or spiritually, does not happen when you actually take action. Instead, it occurs while you recover.
For a Titan, recovering doesn’t mean lounging on the couch all day long, doing nothing. Quite the contrary! A Titan Recovery means actively recovering.
The benefit of a Titan Recovery – versus lounging on the couch for hours – is that it’ll keep your ideas, blood and spirit flowing! Here are some Titan recovery strategies:
Mental Recovery Strategies.
“Your fishing hours should be as sacred as your business hours.” – Lin Yutang
- Read books daily.
- Exercise, at least, 5 days a week for at least 20-30 minutes each time.
- Practice a hobby, at least once a week.
- Take a technology break at least once a week. Be unreachable!
- Discard the plan when you feel like it, but go back to it the next day.
- Leave your mobile phone out of the bathroom! Not only will the germs from the toilet and surrounding surfaces get onto your hand and end up on your phone, but also you need peace and quiet for this activity!
Physical Recovery Strategies.
“Recovery is more important to me than actual training sessions due to the large number of games I have to play. Winding down and resting is a key part of my day-to-day routine and enables me to perform to the highest level in my profession and prolong my career.” – Cristiano Ronaldo
- Low-intensity or de-load workouts. Easy sessions at no more than 60 to 70 percent of your maximum effort. Do this in the 4th week of each month.
- Do some yoga or stretching at least once a week.
- Sauna or steam room at least once a week.
- Low-intensity swimming. Easy sessions 60 to 70 percent of your maximum effort.
- Contrast bath therapy. Alternate cold water (10-15°C or 50-59°F) and hot water (38-40°C or 100-104 °F) immersions for 1-5 minutes each for a 20-30 minute period at least once a week.
- Get a massage once a week.
- Recovery nutrition.
- Get adequate sleep at night and take a nap in the afternoon.
Spiritual Recovery Strategies.
“It does good also to take walks out of doors, that our spirits may be raised and refreshed by the open air and fresh breeze: sometimes we gain strength by driving in a carriage, by travel, by change of air, or by social meals and a more generous allowance of wine.” – Seneca
- Spend time in solitude to reflect or journal daily.
- Take a walk
- Write three things you are grateful for
- Bask in the sun Around 9:00 AM is the best time for this!
- Keep human! Get out of the house, see people, spend time with family & friends.
- Walk barefoot on the grass or beach daily, if you can.
- Watch sunsets daily. Perhaps even have a light dinner while you do so.
- Spend time in nature at least once a week.
- Treat yourself: book a room at a fancy hotel, go to a wonderful restaurant, get tickets to the opera, theater or concert, go to a museum, buy some beautiful flowers.
- Travel to new places at least once every three months.
Work in Cycles.
“When he worked, he really worked. But when he played, he really played.” – Dr. Seuss
You should know by now that working 24×7 will deplete your energy.
Titans, like professional athletes, alternate short cycles of intense performance with cycles of recovery. Both cycles are equally important and necessary, not only to survive but also to thrive!
Titans work more than average, but also rest more than average. Remember this, and you’ll be well on your way to becoming a Titan!
Do like professional athletes. Balance your game day with periods of rest.
To know exactly how much work and how much recovery is often a difficult judgment call. You will have to try what works better for you. Here are some Titan strategies:
- Work 25-5. Work for 25 minutes and take a 5-minute break (breathe, walk, have a glass of water.)
- Work 50-10. Work for 50 minutes and take a 10-minute break (breathe, walk, have a glass of water.)
- Work 90-20. Work for 90 minutes and take a 20-minute break (work out, longer walk, have a snack.)
- Take your lunch hour. Savor your food. Don’t just gulp it down. Sure, sometimes we must rush through our lunch hour, but don’t make rushing your normal.
- Take a 20-minute nap or a 20-minute walk after lunch. You’ll be ready to start all over again! (more on this in a later chapter!)
- Savor your dinner. Make it a form of meditation, if alone. Enjoy the conversations, if shared with loved ones. Whether alone or with loved ones, please don’t watch TV while eating. Especially, do not watch the news. All those wars and tragedies will not help you with digestion!
- Take a Titan Rest Day once a week, where you simply do nothing work-related. Remember, this doesn’t mean lounging on the couch!
- Work for 3 weeks, take a weekend off.
- Work for 3 months, take a week off.
- Sojourn in a different city or country for three months every 1 or 2 years.
“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.” – Chinese proverb
Taking the time to unplug and recharge is critical for our mental, physical, spiritual and emotional well-being.
Many Titans throughout history have used relaxation to boost their happiness, creativity, productivity and overall health: Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, Ludwig van Beethoven, Charles Darwin, Charles Dickens, Nelson Mandela, Warren Buffett, Larry Ellison, Meryl Streep, Richard Branson, Oprah Winfrey, Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos and Elon Musk.
Thomas Jefferson said, “Leave all the afternoon for exercise and recreation, which are as necessary as reading. I will rather say more necessary because health is worth more than learning.”
William S. Burroughs stated, “Your mind will answer most questions if you learn to relax and wait for the answer.”
And Jeff Bezos stated, “I like to putter in the morning, so I like to read the newspaper, have coffee, have breakfast with my kids before they go to school. My puttering time is very important for me.”
Here are some of the benefits of relaxing:
- Reduces stress, anxiety and depression.
- Improves overall health.
- Increases productivity and creativity.
- Boosts happiness.
- Improves communication (walking meetings).
Take A Day Off Weekly.
“Take rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop.” – Ovid
All major religions encourage it! Taking a rest day per week will provide you with a much-needed respite.
Culturally speaking, Jewish people take the concept of rest very seriously. Sabbath comes every week, and religious Jews literally stop working for 24 hours, sundown to sundown. They do it for religious reasons, but studies have shown that taking a day off weekly is Titan for your health and productivity.
Eckhart Tolle said, “… the simple reason why the majority of scientists are not creative is not because they don’t know how to think, but because they don’t know how to stop thinking!”
So if you want to be a Titan, take at least a day off each week! Here are some of its benefits:
- Reduces negative stress and allow you to recover from positive stress you constantly push yourself through.
- Reduces inflammation and the risk of heart disease.
- Boosts your immune system.
- Restores physical, mental and spiritual energies.
- Brings the opportunity to connect with your loved ones.
“I don’t think of work as work and play as play. It’s all living.” – Richard Branson
Titans know of the importance of Titan recreation to have a Titan Life.
Oprah Winfrey likes gardening; Richard Branson plays chess; Bill Gates and Warren Buffet play bridge (Buffett also plays the ukulele); Larry Ellison likes sailing; Meryl Streep likes knitting.
Don’t wait to have fun or travel until you retire. Celebrate life while you climb to the mountain top!
Build a system to ensure that each week you have some adventure and fun. Make time for Titan recreation: practice a
hobby, go see a movie, get a massage, go to your favorite bookstore, read an interesting book, go to new places, try some new food, learn a new skill, go to a museum. Be a kid again!
Human life goes in cycles of work and play, of tension and relaxation. As Miguel de Cervantes wrote, “The bow cannot always stand bent, nor can human frailty subsist without some lawful recreation.”
What’s the point of realizing your Titan goals if you haven’t had time to have fun? Life is a giant adventure. Enjoy it! The person who experiences the most wins! At the end of your life, it won’t be the Rolls-Royces, but the experiences that will stay with you.
Take Vacations. Really!
“When you go on vacation, your routine is interrupted; the places you go and the new people you meet can inspire you in unexpected ways.” – Richard Branson
Most people are not growing because their brain is suffering from over-stimulation.
Research has proven that long periods of work without vacation can lead to reduced productivity, diminished creativity and strained relationships.
Contrary to popular belief, Titans take time off.
Williams James said, “Every man who possibly can should force himself to a holiday of a full month in a year, whether he feels like taking it or not.”
Richard Branson said, “I make sure that I disconnect by leaving my smartphone at home or in the hotel room for as long as possible – days, if I can – and bringing a notepad and pen with me instead. Freed from the daily stresses of my working life, I find that I am more likely to have new insights into old problems and other flashes of inspiration.”
And Red Hastings, who publicly announced that he takes six weeks of vacation a year because “it’s important for work-life balance,” said, “It is helpful. You often do your best thinking when you’re off hiking in some mountain or something. You get a different perspective on things.”
Don’t wait for retirement to take some time off! Aim to distribute mini-retirements throughout life. You not only need time to recover and bond with your family, but also you will get your Titan ideas about your professional and personal lives while you are vacationing.
Did you finish your Titan project? Celebrate with your family! Take them on a trip!
“He who returns from a journey is not the same as he who left.” – Chinese Proverb
Traveling is one of the secrets to becoming a Titan.
Many Titans throughout history have used traveling to disrupt who they were yesterday.
Socrates stated, “I’m from the world; not from Athens.”
Augustine of Hippo said, “The world is a book, and those who don’t travel only read one page.”
Seneca stated, “Travel and change of place impart new vigor to the mind.”
And Dalai Lama said, “Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.”
By exposing yourself to different cultures, different foods and different ways of operating, you will realize that no country by itself has all the answers. There is no perfect country out there! Every country has some Titan aspects – and some not so Titan. By embracing all the Titan aspects from all different cultures around the world, you get to form your own culture back home.
Feel as comfortable in Tokyo, Delhi and Madrid, as you feel back home. Meet new interesting people, new cultures, new foods. Become a citizen of the world! Realize that we are all connected by our humanity.
Don’t wait to travel until you retire! Do it now, while you’re still young! If you are concerned about the cost of traveling, know that traveling is the only thing you buy that makes you richer. Try backpacking, instead!
When you travel, your perspective is altered, so that you see the world through someone else’s eyes. This is called empathy. And with more empathy in the world, we would solve most of today’s world problems.
“Being spiritual has nothing to do with what you believe and everything to do with your state of consciousness.” – Eckhart Tolle
Many people, especially in the more economically developed countries, have become obsessed with developing the mind. While developing the mind is also important, everything starts with developing the spirit.
The spirit is wiser than the mind. While your mind offers knowledge, your spirit offers wisdom.
The spirit is the master of your entire being. The spirit has been described as the king, with the mind as the king’s adviser. When faced with a difficult decision, the king may ask his adviser for advice. It may even send him out into the world to gather facts, but ultimately it is the king that must make the final decision. The king is always right because he sees the whole picture from a higher place.
The problem is that most people follow their minds – instead of their spirits – believing it will solve all of their life’s problems. This is not the right approach!
While the mind can understand the most complex scientific and mathematical theories, the mind can also get caught up in trivia and nonsense. Your mind contains all your wounds and fears. This is why, if your mind dominates your life, you will be at its mercy, and it will push and pull you in all directions, creating problems and dramas. Your spirit has no wounds and knows nothing of fear. Your spirit is innocent, utterly blissful!
If you’re not sure about the above statement, why is it that you, my mind-developed friend, are not happy?
While you might think there are numerous reasons you are not happy, the main reason is that your mind is not standing in the proper position. Your mind has surpassed the spirit and, having reversed the order, has risen from the position of an advisor to becoming the king. And this is when you’re in trouble! Because living inside your head all the time is not conducive to your happiness!
So what is the spirit? The spirit is your awareness.
Most of the world’s problems, including your own – whether it is your health, marriage, family, finances – are due to a lack of awareness. As Lao Tzu said, “The key to growth is the introduction of higher dimensions of consciousness into our awareness.”
And when you develop awareness about yourself, you can also develop awareness about others. And this, my friend, is called empathy!
You Are Not Your Thoughts.
“What a liberation to realize that the “voice in my head” is not who I am.
Who am I then? The one who sees that.” – Eckhart Tolle
Have you ever thought about killing your boss or hitting someone’s car for rudely cutting you off in traffic?
These thoughts might flash into your mind, but then you simply label them as thoughts and let them pass like a cloud, without judging or rejecting them. They are just thoughts!
The fact that you can watch your mind’s thoughts means you are not your thoughts; you are above them!
As the pen is not the writer, but an instrument in the hands of the writer, the mind is not the master, but an instrument in the hands of the master. A Titan Life is about having mastery over yourself.
Become The Observer.
“Watch your thoughts, they become your words; watch your words, they become your actions; watch your actions, they become your habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny.” – Lao Tzu
Rather than being your thoughts, be the awareness behind them. Become the observer of your thoughts.
Thoughts in themselves aren’t positive or negative as they enter your mind; they are actually neutral. But they can be empowering or disempowering to your happiness and success, depending on the meaning you, the observer, decide to give them. And who is this you? Your awareness, your spirit.
To build your Titan Life, you must stand at the doorway of your mind and monitor your thoughts. Entertain only those thoughts conducive to your Titan Life, and discard those that are not.
Whenever a disempowering thought pops in your mind, say, “Stop! Thank you for sharing” (preventing a potential ‘snowball effect’). Next, replace that disempowering thought for its empowering counterpart, even if at the moment it may seem delusional. Repeat the empowering thought, over and over again, until the disempowering thought goes away.
The quality of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts, so choose wisely!
Developing Titan Optimism.
“Overcoming negative tendencies and enhancing positive potential are the very essence of the spiritual path.” – Dalai Lama
Stoics – such as Seneca and Epictetus – believed that the objective of the virtuous person is to reach apatheia – a state of
tranquility: the absence of negative feelings such as anxiety, fear and anger, and the presence of positive feelings such as happiness, love and gratitude.
Your success does not create your optimism. It is your optimism that leads to your success.
Titans are optimists. The word “optimism” actually derives from the Latin word optima, which means the best outcome or belief in the greatest good.
While most people look for ways that something cannot be done, Titans look for ways it can be done. While most people focus on problems, Titans focus on solutions. While most people kill opportunities, Titans create them.
I am not suggesting to pretend that everything is rosy when it is not. But we can choose to look at things in a way that empowers us. This way of looking at things is not “true” in an absolute sense, but it is more useful, and feels a lot better!
A Titan optimism is not passive. You don’t simply focus on the positives and do nothing about it, hoping that the universe will give you that which you want. A Titan optimism is proactive. You focus on the positive while doing something about it!
“When crisis comes, the first thing I ask is, ‘What are you here to teach me?” – Oprah Winfrey
One thing is to prevent disempowering thoughts from taking over your mind – this, you can control – and another thing is to prevent a crisis from happening – this, you cannot always control.
Life isn’t all about fun and games. We lose our jobs; we get divorced; we get physically injured or sick; a parent dies. These are part of life, and you can’t control them from happening. But you can always control one thing, your reaction!
While it is important that you feel the pain and grieve (journaling is a Titan tool for this!), you must not dwell on suffering. Like the Dalai Lama says, “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”
As painful as it may seem at the moment, always ask yourself, ‘What is this here to teach me?’ Whenever you do this, you will find clarity and then a way to better shoulder the burden.
A crisis is only a problem if you make the choice to see it as a problem. The word ‘crisis’ in Japanese (危機) has the kanjis 危 (danger) and 機 (opportunity). Everyone has crises in life. It is up to us to see a crisis as danger or problem, or as an opportunity for growth!
Your growth can only grow to the extent that you do. The size of the crisis is never the issue. What matters is the size of you! If you have a “big” crisis in your life, all it means is that you are being a small person. The bigger the crises you can handle, the bigger the opportunities you will create. And if you become a master at handling crises, what can stop you from success? Nothing! And if nothing can stop you from success, nothing will stop you from living your Titan Life! So always ask yourself, “What is this here to teach me?”
Practice “Negative Visualization.”
“We should love all our dear ones…, but always with the thought that we have no promise that we may keep them forever – nay, no promise even that we may keep them for long.” – Seneca
The thing we love can fall at any moment with a gust of wind. Everything we have and all the people we love disappear at some point.
Stoics practiced negative visualization. They imagined the worst thing that could happen to be prepared if certain privileges and pleasures were taken away from them. To practice negative visualization correctly, we have to reflect on negative events, but without worrying about them.
Seneca not only practiced negative visualization every night before falling asleep, but also put it into practice – for example, by living for a week without servants.
Here are some ways you can practice negative visualization:
- What if your important event (exam, meeting, work presentation, marriage) were to go wrong? What’s the worst possible scenario? What would you do?
- What if a loved one would suddenly die? How would you feel? What would you like to tell them now?
- What if you lost all your possessions now? What would you do?
- What if you died today or get terminally ill? How would this impact your life, your relationships?
Negative visualization works similar to a vaccine as it improves your defense mechanisms when misfortunes happen. This practice will teach you to appreciate more what you already have without clinging to it, so you will be prepared to let go of the things and people you appreciate no matter what life throws at you.
Your anticipation of difficult scenarios takes the sting and fear out of them by reducing the surprise factor and by confronting them through your imagination.
“I never take counsel of my fears.” – General George Patton
Have you ever been scared? Have you ever felt “butterflies” in your stomach before an important event, date, exam, job interview? Well, join the club! This means you are human.
Fear is a normal human survival mechanism that helped us when we had to fight saber-tooth tigers in the savanna. But fear does not serve us now!
Fear is the primary obstacle you are facing right now that is preventing you from living your Titan Life. Why? Because fear keeps you small!
Here’s a Titan secret: “Everyone, including Titans, experiences fear or anxiety from time to time before an important undertaking. The difference between Titans and most people is that even though they both feel the same “butterflies,” the latter let their fear paralyze them, while the former decides to step forward in spite of feeling the same “butterflies.” In other words, most people run away from fear, while Titans run towards it!”
Overcoming fear comes down to the attitude you choose to take: to fight and resist fear – which is not advisable – or to acknowledge and accept fear, and still take a step forward!
Fear is a great teacher. It provides a great source of information and data. It’s a sign-post of where you need to grow. The thing that most terrifies you is what you must do because it will bring you the greatest growth.
So get to know your fears. Journal about them. Understand them. Befriend them. Say, “Alright, so I’m feeling butterflies… my mouth is dry, oh, hi, fear!” Give a big smile. And now say, “Fear, thanks for sharing, but I need to move forward!”
Action dissipates fear. I did not say “eliminates” because fear will always be there. Get used to it! To be human is to deal with fear. Courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is recognizing your fears and still do whatever needs to be done! As Mark Twain said, “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear.”
What is it you are currently resisting the most? This is what you must do! Are you afraid of heights? Go to the tallest building and look down over the edge! Constant exposure to the object of fear immunizes against the fear.
Each time you do what scares you, you take back the power you gave to that very thing you gave your power to. And you will build character. On the other side of your fear lies your Titan Life.
The Master and the Dogs.
“One day, a wise Master went to visit a remote mountain temple. As he approached the temple, he saw a pair of ferocious dogs chained to the entry gate. Upon seeing the Master, the dogs barked and pulled against their chains. The monk accompanying the Master said, ‘I know these dogs look scary but don’t worry; they are chained to the wall and cannot harm you.’ As the Master and monk passed the entrance to the temple, the Master looked back to see that the dogs had broken free from their chains and were racing directly towards him. Then, the Master started to run – directly towards the dogs. The dogs were so surprised to see the Master running at them that they turned around and ran away.”
Be Comfortable Being Uncomfortable.
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails.
Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain
Discomfort is the price that Titans pay. Christopher Columbus was the first one to sail perpendicular to the coast, instead of parallel to the coast like the rest did.
If it is not uncomfortable, you are not making progress. To grow as a person, you need to expand your comfort zone. You only grow when you are outside your comfort zone. Whenever you feel uncomfortable, say to yourself, ‘I must be growing,’ and continue moving forward! Progress lives in the edges.
It is possible to act independently of or even in opposition to our thoughts and feelings. For example, most professional actors get nervous before getting on the stage. They feel “butterflies,” but they still do it! The key is to step forward, in spite of how you feel. Acting confidently, even when you don’t feel like it, creates a level of real confidence within that “margin of illusion.”
Moving outside your traditional comfort zone of achievement requires substantial motivation and sacrifice, but it’s a necessary discipline. And as you keep expanding your comfort zone – through taking action – what used to be scary, unknown, or extraordinary becomes now the new comfort zone!